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Dressing for your body shape

Nyasha Matongo | Nust ZW 19′
4 minute read

I’m sure almost every lady has walked into a shop and bought some clothes only to be disappointed when she looked at herself in the mirror. The clothes don’t look so great on her. Studies have revealed that 98% of women do not know their body shapes and that is why they have trouble shopping for the right clothes for their body. In my previous post I talked about dressing mistakes that ladies make but, at times you actually think you have nailed it when it’s a disaster just because you are wearing an outfit that is not meant for your body shape. So how do you get to know your body shape and dress accordingly? Lets get right into it shall we?

Apple/Round

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What you should wear: Go for empire dresses which slim down your tummy and define the narrow parts of your body. Floppy tank tops or empire line tops would look great on you also. Long tunics will help slim your your torso and would look even more fab with skinny jeans. Classic jeans or boot cuts would be perfect. By the way ladies with this body shape usually have lovely legs so you might just want to consider wearing high-low skirts or dresses.

Rectangle/Banana

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What you should wear: Belts should be your thing. Belts define your waist and add a more curvy look and I’m sure you’ll love them too. You can also try out pencil skirts with a side slit they’ll look good as well. The best part is you look great in colourful bottoms and prints so go ahead, try some. Try rounded or curved shoes to add more shape to your body.

Triangle/Pear

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What you should wear: I’m sure you’re very familiar with this body shape but it could be very tricky. Wear tank tops to show off your arms and add a jacket to add more volume to your upper body. One simple way of rocking this body shape is by wearing off-the-shoulder or single arm tops to balance your shoulders and hips. For your pants, bootlegs (full length), full leg line or ankle length straight pants would look awesome.

Inverted triangle

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What you should wear: The trick for this body shape is creating a balance between the upper body and lower body to draw away attention from your shoulders. Go for V-neck, square or cowl neck tops or dresses to reduce your shoulder width. Wearing stretchy tops will also make you look slimmer. Try wearing well fitting blazers and blouses in dark colours to balance off your body. High waist, layered or fuller skirts will add instant curves and yea, you DO have them. Skirt lengths can be short and flared or long and flowing.

Hourglass

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What you should wear: Instead of hiding your curves, you should actually consider showing them off. Hourglasses come in petite, medium and bulk sizes so whatever size you are, embrace those curves. Wear two-piece dresses, pencil skirts or anything that accentuates your curves and smooths your thighs. Belts and peplum tops should be on your list as well to create that edgy look. Avoid baggy clothes that conceal your shape making you look bigger and older.

So which one is your body shape?

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From left to right: circle, rectangle, hourglass, pear, inverted triangle

Looking and dressing good is not about which body shape you have. I know society believes that certain body shapes are the true definition of being a woman when its not true. The perfect body shape you can ever have is the one you have right now because it makes you uniquely you. Never allow social perspectives to kill your self esteem. Instead, identify your body shape, wear what suits your body shape and be confident about it. Take time to research on what you are supposed to wear and be the lady God made you to be. The girl who loves her body and owes no one an apology for being created in a certain way. You are special and be-you-tiful in God’s eyes so go ahead, dress accordingly and be the best version of you.

xoxo

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Pulling through a long distance relationship

Nyasha Matongo | Nust ZW 19′
4 minute read 

…it’s usually mistrust and loneliness that brings emptiness or rather the “d i s t a n c e” in a long distance relationship…

Hey guys welcome to another series of For Her Fridays. After dwelling so much on fashionmakeup and style shall we get into the love lounge? To begin this series, I’m going to talk about long distance relationships.

I’ve noticed that if there’s one thing that people are skeptical about, it’s long distance relationships. I tried to find out why and it’s usually mistrust and loneliness that brings emptiness or rather the “distance” in a long distance relationship. Based on my current personal experiences and lessons from other people, I’m going to talk about how you can pull through a long distance relationship.

I can’t say I’ve always been negative about long distance relationships. Maybe it’s because I just never had the chance to be in any. I have seen people breaking up and others cheating and others entering an “open relationship” phase (I still don’t understand how this works) because long distance had become unbearable.

All this ends up happening because people would have allowed a gap to be created especially if they used to be in closer proximity. From my understanding, it all goes back to the importance of knowing your love languages as according to Gary Chapman. Discover what you guys individually like and make the most of it whilst one of you is away. For example, I like it when my bf helps me do something no matter how small. It could even be just holding my umbrella.

So when I’m away like this, he still finds something to help me with be it proof reading my blogs, helping me plan my day or week or anything he might be able to help with. Gosh that gets me sooo happy (you’ll understand why when I talk about love languages in my next For Her Friday post).

IMG_20180902_165433_716[1]Gifts can be a great way of making your bae think about you

…seeing all those cute and crazy pictures reminds me that I have something beautiful to hold on to…

By positivism I mean how much you believe in your couple. Someone would literally declare the relationship over in her mind just because “all boys cheat” anyway. Yea, that could be true, boys cheat, men don’t.

The first thing you need to do is to believe that you can make it. You can never expect something to work when you don’t believe that it can work for you. Although I’d never been in a long distance relationship, I told myself to focus on the positive things that could result from it and I had to see myself pulling through. Stop thinking about all the negative things that could happen. Your life is shaped by what you think.

The next thing I (I’d rather say we) did was to prepare ourselves for it. How? Spend as much time as possible with your loved one before one of you goes away. Deliberately make an investment into your relationship by creating memories.

Take walks, just sit on a park bench and tell your bf what you really like about him and what you’ll miss. Don’t let the separation be an abrupt event, make it gradual at least 2-3 months. Another great way of doing this is taking lots pictures if you like pictures. There are times when I just browse my gallery and seeing all those cute and crazy pictures reminds me that I have something beautiful to hold on to.

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Make memories and capture them

After being separated by distance one thing bae and I have done is to have quality time despite being in two different parts of the country. These days technology has made communication easier and you really need to make use of it. One of the things we do is making video calls and tallllllk. This doesn’t only feel awesome, it actually makes you feel like you are not so far from each other.

C’mon, he’s just a call away not hundreds of kilometers after all. If you can’t do video calls, do voice calls or anything that keeps the two of you in touch. If you don’t talk to him someone will and this could even be his own mind which leads to suspicion and suspicion leads to…. Yea, you got it right (I’m just assuming you did lol)

The most important thing you need to do if you ever want to pull through a long distance relationship is building your relationship on trust. Some girls can’t even let their boyfriends go out of their sight what more if he now has to be away from you? I talked about 5 things girls do that guys hate and lack of trust is definitely one of them.

I’m sure you’d get irritated too if your bf didn’t trust you. I’ve had many people asking me why I trust my boyfriend so much. Well, I guess it’s because I haven’t caught him. (Hahaha just kidding). My secret is I’ve learnt that trust is the secret to a healthy relationship regardless of distance.

I’m always positive and I never allow any negative forces to influence me. My friends now know this and they even fight any negativity that other people might try to bring. The problem is most of the time we allow other people to influence our relationships when our relationships should influence the world.

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Owww this one came from my bf…. “be in touch with his friends and surprise him even when you are not around….” 🙂

So there you have it. Long distance relationships can actually work out and its you and your partner who have to put in the effort. Remember to do the things he loves the most, build trust, be positive and have quality time together even when you’re not together. I hope you enjoyed reading this article and you found it helpful. Please share with me some of your tips in the comments section below and do follow and like my blog.

xoxo

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