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7 Ways to Reduce Pain During First Time Sex #WednesdayWisdom

Taylor Carson | Temple University 
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It doesn’t matter who you are ––sex for the first time is a huge deal. Whether you’re preparing to lose your virginity (or have sex with a new partner for the first time), at least a little discomfort is inevitable. After all, everyone is different and sex is a learning process!

So, how can you reduce the amount of pain you feel? We’ve enlisted the help of Laura-Anne Rowell, a sex coach at Primitive Balance, to dish seven secrets on having a more pleasurable experience during your first time.

1. Lower your expectations

Take some time and evaluate your own expectations. What are they? Be wary that popular culture often depicts intercourse as sensual and hot when, in reality, your first time is more likely to be sweaty and uncomfortable.

Believe it or not, unrealistic expectations (even if you don’t consciously realize you have them) can negatively affect your first experience. Go into the act with a clear mind and understand that what you’ll come to define as “good” sex is going to take time, practice and patience to establish.

While you may want to lower your expectations on how the experience will physically feel, you should absolutely have high expectations in terms of a caring partner and consent. Make sure you’re absolutely sure that you’re emotionally ready! You should never feel pressured by your partner, friends or society into having sex.

2. Find a peaceful space

Everyone is anxious prior to having sex for the first time, so the last thing you need is for the process to be disrupted by outside noises. It is extremely important to feel comfortable physically, mentally and emotionally if you want to maximize pleasure. Create an environment where you and your partner can feel safe and open –– and where you’re sure no one will accidentally barge in.

3. Talk about sex with your partner

Often times, the pressure associated with sexual performance makes the experience more disappointing than it has to be. To combat such pressures, take the time to have a sex talk with your partner beforehand.

We get it: you might feel like talking about the mechanics of sex will make things unromantic or just plain awkward. Make the conversation fun and relaxed. Start with openers like “I like when you do this…now let’s try this,” or “this hurts…maybe this will feel better!” Learn each other’s pleasure zones. What makes you both feel good? What are your boundaries? Knowing your partner is turned on will inadvertently turn you on more, too.

Communicating beforehand will make you both feel more excited about the experience and, in turn, reduce pain.

4. Start with foreplay

For sex to be enjoyable, you have to be turned on. If you aren’t lubricated (either naturally or with some extra help), it’s going to hurt. Foreplay is a great and extremely fun way to get things started!

It’s important to note that foreplay is different for everyone. “The main reason for women to engage in foreplay is not only mental stimulation (getting more in the mood) but for biological reasons (to get wet),” Rowell says. “When a woman is turned on and wet, this makes sex more enjoyable and easier for penetration (less painful).”

Anna*, a sophomore at the University of Maryland, lost her virginity this past summer. “Because my body was so new to penetration, my boyfriend did a lot of fingering to prepare me for, well, the final act,” she says. “Easing into things via foreplay helped to make first-time sex virtually painless for me.”

Keep in mind that not all women get turned on by the same things. “Some women get turned on just by kissing and that is enough foreplay for them to have sex,” Rowell says. “Others take longer and want oral play, breast play and soft (or rough depending on your style) caresses before wanting sex.”

Before penetration begins, make sure you feel aroused by engaging in foreplay with your partner. Otherwise, you’re going to feel slight pain and discomfort.

Related: What First Time Sex is Like For Guys

5. Take it slow

To help ease into things, make sure you indicate to your partner that you want to take it slow. Be patient with each other, take your time, communicate during the act and learn what feels right ––and what doesn’t.

Kelsey*, a junior at Florida State University, knows just how important it is not to rush into things. “The best thing you can do to reduce any pain is just to be relaxed,” she says. “Don’t push it or do it when you don’t really want to. Your nerves and hesitancies might make it harder to be “turned on,” and that can be painful!” We couldn’t agree more.

If you’re having trouble relaxing, try playing soothing music, focusing on your breathing, or simply laughing with your partner. Keep in mind that you can stop at any point if it hurts too much. Never think you have to just “get it over with” or “suck up the pain,” sex should be enjoyable for both partners.

6. Experiment with different positions

Once sex is underway, don’t be afraid to experiment with your body positioning. Just because one thing doesn’t feel good doesn’t mean everything won’t feel good! Switch things up (within your comfort zone, of course!) and find what makes the experience most pleasurable for both you and your partner.

According to Rowell, there are three basic positions for starters that provide the most pleasure to the female: missionary, girl on top, or doggie style. “Depending on if you want clitoral stimulation (girl on top) or if you want to feel more relaxed and find it better for g-spot (missionary) or if you want deep penetration (doggie),” she says. “In all these positions, you are able to control and communicate with your partner easily.”

Rowell adds that, while there is no right-or-wrong first position, missionary is a good starting place if it’s your very first time. If missionary is causing you pain, try placing a pillow under your hips to ease discomfort. “Once you have mastered these, then you can try the variations and learn all the fancy terms,” she says.

7. Try again later

Remember, collegiettes: it’s not unexpected for your first time to be less-than-extraordinary. If you’re struggling to get lubricated, your partner can’t maintain an erection or neither of you are reaching orgasm, take a break. You can ––and should–– try again later! The most important thing to do is laugh off the experience and learn from it.

If you find that you have a painful time during your first time, don’t beat yourself up. Take the time to discover what you enjoy sexually, don’t put pressure on yourself and try again when you feel ready! Trust us, when it comes to sex, practice makes perfect.

*Names have been changed.Curated from Her Campus
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Campus News Round-Up: What You Might Have Missed This Week (4 – 10 February 2018)

Editorial Staff 

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WINKY D delivered a stellar performance with his newly released album at the Nust Semester Welcome Bash at the  ceremonial hall in Bulawayo on Saturday night.

This came a day after he launched his much anticipated album Gombwe in Harare.

Local favourites, DJ Nospa and DJ Mzoe warmed up the stage for the Gafa.  They did not disappoint.

As expected the Ninja president and his Vigilance Band gave a spirited performance, blending the new and the old.

He performed songs from the new album that was launched on his birthday but nothing was new in terms of living up to expectations.

The album, which is a mixture of party and dance songs, has already proven to be a hit.

Those who did not make it to the HICC got their fair share of the Gafa’s worldclass act at Nust.

Winky D who got on stage at around half one launched his performance with old songs from previous albums with the crowd singing along throughout.

As if in trance the Disappear hit-maker performed his seemingly favourite song Ngirozi, from the new album featuring choral group, Vabati VaJehova, more than three times with the crowd responding well to the new gospel dance hall tune.

Winky D kept the students on their feet with songs like Toyi Toyi, Old School, Green Like Me Garden and Godo.

He left the stage at 3.30am yesterday and the crowd kept clamouring for more.

First Copy of Gombwe Sold For US$40 000

Businessman and socialite Genius “Ginimbi” Kadungure bought the first copy of Winky D’s latest album, Gombwe, for $40 000 during its launch on Friday night at the Harare International Conference Centre (HICC).

Ginimbi who is known for flaunting his wealth on social media wanted to buy the auctioned disc at $20 000 but he was forced to revise the initial amount after flamboyant Albert Ndabambi ‘outshined’ him by bidding the CD for $30 000.

Ginimbi dug deeper into his pockets forking another $20 000 to make it $40 000 in total.

At the end of the night, Winky D smiled all the way to the bank with a cool $70 000, a lump sum.- (Chronicle)

South Sudanese Students Go Green 

Midlands State University South Sudan Students, in conjunction with the National Forest Commission, embarked on a tree planting exercise at the Graduate School of Business Leadership campus on the 30th of January 2018.

The exercise aimed at creating a vibrant and healthy environment for the students and the surrounding communities.

The project coordinator, Kan Gueh Kan Lapdhor, highlighted that the initiative was driven by the ideals of Zimbabwe’s National Tree Planting Day which is held annually in December.

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Ladphor said the initiative was meant to improve the learning, working and living environment for Midlands State University and the surrounding community as trees provide clean air.

“The role of trees on the planet is comparable to that of lungs in human beings. Therefore, it is imperative to plant trees at our University to improve the living conditions of human beings and bring balance to the ecosystem through the production of clean air,” said Kan.

The Midlands State University International Relations Office also highlighted that this initiative came as a result of the need to join the world in combating global warming which has affected most parts of Sub-Saharan Africa.

International Relations Office representative, Qinisani Bhebe, weighed in on the tree planting initiative by highlighting its contribution towards the reduction of global warming.

Mr Ilunga, representing the Student Affairs Division, applauded the efforts made by the Midlands State University International students towards creating a green environment.

Ilunga went on to thank the National Forest Commission for the donation of two hundred and fifty trees.

“As the Student Affairs Division, we would like to commend the South Sudan students for coming up and implementing an initiative that would help preserve our environment.”

This tree planting initiative is also going to leave a lasting legacy of their courtesy not only towards Midlands State University but the nation at large.

This tree planting exercise shall be an ongoing process at Midlands State University as the International students scale up their fight against global warming to make this world a better place to live in.- (MSU Facebook)

Govt to review harsh media laws

“Zimbabwe was one of the first countries to introduce legislation on access to information-the AIPPA Act, but unfortunately, AIPPA is better in prohibiting access to information than in facilitating it,” 

 

Government says it is in the process of aligning media laws with the constitution as well as reviewing some laws that impede the smooth operation of the media.

The media is Zimbabwe is operating under harsh conditions which have seen various journalists being arrested for stories they would have written and also failing to access information from public institutions.

Speaking at the launch of the European Union and Norwegian government funded Media and Elections Program, Acting Minister of Information, Media and Broadcasting Services Simon Khaya-Moyo said work is already under way to align the laws.

“At policy level, the Ministry of Information is in the process of aligning the two pieces of media legislation that fall within its purview that is the Access to Information and Protection of Privacy Act (AIPPA) and the Broadcasting Services Act (BSA) with the constitution, they must be aligned with the constitution and we are working expeditiously to ensure this is accomplished.

“The ministry is also alive to the fact that there are other laws that affect the media and continues to engage with other government stakeholders to ensure that we create a more favourable working environment for the media,” he said.

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Speaking at the same occasion Head of European Union Delegation to Zimbabwe, Ambassador Philippe Van Damme said if the media is to play its role of reinforcing accountability then the stringent laws must be address as matter of urgent.

“If we want the media to full play their role of informing public debate and reinforcing scrutiny and accountability of electoral and democratic processes, the issues will need to be addressed, not only through the legal framework, but also in the way the laws are effectively applied.

“Zimbabwe was one of the first countries to introduce legislation on access to information-the AIPPA Act, but unfortunately, as you all know, AIPPA is better in prohibiting access to information than in facilitating it,” he said.

Ambassador Van Damme added that the media is also constrained in its watchdog role by harsh economic conditions and general lack of professional skills and deontological standards.

He said the media is also constrained by threats from politicians or other wealthy and/or well-connected individuals under the investigations.- (Daniel Chingundu/Open Parly ZW)

Zimbabwe off to Redbull Campus Cricket World Final in Sri Lanka

by Staff Reporters

The countdown to the official kick-off of the T20 #RedBullCampusCricket World Final in Colombo, Sri Lanka is at just over 72 hours.

Bowling all-rounder, Mzingaye Mdlongwa, will lead a squad of 15 men from the National University of Science and Technology to represent Zimbabwe in the invitational tourney that will run from the 10th to the 16th of September 2017.

Mdlongwa said, “I am so excited to be leading this team on Zimbabwe’s first appearance at the Campus Cricket World Finals. I hope we will perform better than the national team.”

Team Coach, Pfungwadzashe Tsongora, a Roosters all-rounder in the Bulawayo Metropolitan Cricket Association First League said his charges would be going for gold.

However, NUST Sports Director Lysias Charumbira highlighted that the World Finals were likely to be a difficult competition for Zimbabwe due to lack of high-performance cricket academies in universities.

“Despite a lot of challenges in Zimbabwe cricket at the moment, Nust remain on course to improve,” said Charumbira – the outgoing director. “We feel that this is the right time to have our students compete with the world’s best college cricketers.”

Donald Tapfuma, technical director, said, “The boys have been training very hard.” Tapfuma that they have particularly prepared for the energiser over in which they expect to reap maximum points.

Each batting side gets one Energiser Over per innings, where runs count double, but any wickets lost will cost five penalty runs. This can be taken at any point after the Powerplay overs, and was used in 2016 to prompt either a mid-innings surge, or as part of teams’ death-overs acceleration.

The squad consists of: Mzingaye Mdlongwa (C), Tafadzwa Peggah, Carrington Bowora, Shaun Nkani, Shadreck Zulu, Tafadzwanashe Makwena, Bill Chimbana, Lincolyn Moyo, Duncan Findi, Ngonidzashe Musyiwa, Sasha Ngwenya, Washington Ngwenya, Fredrick Johnson, Bryan Zhawi, Tawanda Charumbira. Technical team: Pfungwadzashe Tsongora (Coach), Lysias Charumbira (Sports Director), Donald Tapfuma (Technical Director).

The rising stars – players to watch 

Featuring the best college talent from around the world, the Campus Cricket tournaments have been teeming with talent since inception in 2012. Shehan Jayasuriya, Dasun Shanaka and the UAE’s Chirag Suri – who earned an (Indian Premier League’s )IPL contract this year – are the most recent stars who have played in previous tournaments.

Niroshan Dickwella{Batsman – BMS, Sri Lanka}: is reported to possess an “innovative batting style, replete with reverse-sweeps, over-the-shoulder scoops, and constant flitting around on the crease,” all of which were on display during last year’s World Final, during his team’s march to the title.  According to Daily Sports  Dickwella’s “opening salvo – which featured five fours and a six” – quickly set Sri Lanka on track to a 24 run victory over Bangladesh.

Mzingaye Mdlongwa {Bowler – Nust, Zimbabwe}: a player synonymous with deadly and crafty spins – can ground the most revered team to a paltry sum of runs by taking lots of wickets. On the other hand Mdlongwa is a hard hitting batsman who never disappoints on the innings score. He does not hesitate to strike a loose ball to the boundaries.

Janneman Malan {Batsman – NWU, South Africa}: is the team’s key batsman who makes it his business to steer NWU to many of the sweet victories that it enjoys lately. South Africa will be counting on Malan to tear apart any opponents’ bowling by smashing a string of fours and sixes as he usually does. Malan is a product of Cricket South Africa’s high performance programme.

You can watch the semi-final and final live on the 15th and 16th of September on the link below.

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http://but.lybccwf17

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